One of the major problems that a parent faces during the growing years of their child is developing the right attitude towards parenting. Most of the times, mothers give into their children hoping to be in their good books. At other times fulfilling all of the child’s wishes seems like the apt way to develop a bond with their child. But simply listening to everything that your child says is a sure way to spoil them. “Spare the rod and spoil the child” stands absolutely true in this case.
A strict approach is not what I vouch for here, I’m trying to preach the ideology of a disciplined approach towards your child. Make them understand the importance of taking responsibility for their own actions. For implication of this concept we must first inculcate in them a habit of making their own decisions. Instead of telling your child what to do, ask them what they want to do. To keep their desires in control, let them know that approval or disapproval depends on you. To make things easier, you may also give them two choices and ask them to select between the two.
Now, that’s the easy part. A child must learn that they alone have to face the consequences of their own actions and words. No matter what, make them stick to their decisions. Be tough if you have to. If they order a particular flavor of ice cream, once you buy it, don’t let them exchange it for something else. Let them know that they cannot keep changing their mind every time they do not like the outcome of a decision.
Once the child learns to make decisions for themselves, they automatically gain the strength to stand by their own decisions. As a parent we must respect their decisions. This will help to develop their sense of integrity. Involve them in important discussions regarding their life. Let them carve their own careers. Observe their interests and keep encouraging them. Go only as far as your resources permit you.
Be very honest with your child about your financial situations . This will help them understand clearly what awaits them in the future. The more clear picture they have, the more systematic their plans will be. Always support your child’s plans. If they fail, they are the ones who will have to bear the consequences. Taking risks is the only way that they are going to learn. Thus if they trust themselves, you have to put your trust in them. These steps will ensure maturity and a sense of responsibility in your child from an early age.